Does Your Lover Mind?

Forgot her birthday?  You can always make up for it.   Failed to compliment her on her new dress?  You can always do it next time.  Failed to meet her at the restaurant for your date?  A good explanation can often calm her down.

She can forgive much of your forgetfulness but the selfishness and lack of desire to please her will not be forgiven.  Of all the things a woman finds dismaying is to have a partner’s erection disappear because he orgasms the moment he penetrates her.   You could probably get away with it the first time around.  But if premature ejaculation happens more as a rule than a first time exception, there’s probably no way you can make up for that.

You may find that your partner even remains silent in bed.  In fact, ages before the liberated woman surfaced in the mid 20th century, it was believed that women were not able to have an orgasm.  Then once men started to understand that they were supposed to please their partners, women would start faking their orgasms and allowing the men to get away with not satisfying them.  Premature ejaculation isn’t new.   The difference lies in the fact that in the past, it was largely taboo to discuss the problem.  Women were not viewed in respectable society to have any right to humiliate her man neither in public nor in the bedroom.

But the sexually liberated woman of today will not put up with such nonsense.  They’ll give their men a hint that not everything was fine the night they made love.  If she cared about him, she’ll be open enough to sympathize and even take the lead to seek professional help for her man.  However she may not be up for the challenge and it may just be easier for her to just walk away from the relationship. 

There are self-help ideas and suggestions available, but each man is different and the causes behind premature ejaculation can go deeper than what is obvious, professional help is not only sensible, it can provide a more lasting solution.

If you have a loving partner who is behind you in the effort, consider yourself very fortunate.  A number of successful cases that saw positive results to a cure involved couples that have given both time and patience in conditioning the man to develop the confidence and disposition to ejaculate at the right time.  You really cannot know when the right time is unless you have a partner who tells you when that is.   Doing so in practice sessions with the two of you is really the only way. 

So if you’re one of the forty percent of men who prematurely ejaculate, do yourself and your partner a favor.  Explain your problem so your partner at least knows you are not just being insensitive to her needs.  If she cares about you and the relationship, she won’t mind and might even help you stop the problem.